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Am I a bored housewife?

Yesterday I was reading some brochures and pamphlets– mail advertising. My husband said, “You look like a housewife.” Or “You look bored; like a housewife.” He didn’t like that look. I’m in the last month of pregnancy. I’m on maternity leave. I stay home all the time except for when I go to cafes by myself or with other women, or when I go to the doctor. I’m effectively a housewife. But I guess my husband doesn’t want to see me that way. I didn’t pursue it.

Perhaps I wouldn’t mind seeing myself that way if we didn’t live in this country. It is very common for women to be housewives. They either have never worked or stop working as soon as they get married, or later, after having children. Of course, many women work as well.

And precisely because of the fact that I live in this context, perhaps I shouldn’t mind if I am perceived as a housewife, by self or anyone else. And what is wrong with looking like a housewife anyway? Or was it the suggestion that I looked like a bored housewife? Does that mean all or many or some housewives are bored? I know many who aren’t. Or maybe my husband just has an image of what he doesn’t like a housewife to look like. Or his wife. If I feel like it, I’ll bring it up again.

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Complication

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One thought on “Am I a bored housewife?

  1. Would a man who takes maternity leave to help his wife be labelled a “bored husband”. Would the male ego immediately turn on its ego defensive mode to deny the fact that he is taking time off from work to help his wife at home?

    There is no such thing as a bored housewife. Women have too much going on in their lives to ever really be bored or boring.

    Hang in there. Your hubby will eventually realize the error of his assumptions about women who prefer to be housewives. 🙂

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